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Conversations with my Son

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kindessIt has been an interesting week. In light of recent acts of violence and terror, adding that my son is heading into high school, I felt it imperative to open up a dialog about life with my son.


I started the conversation the other day with what his desires are for this world. He is quite enlightened and a gentle soul and responded with my same desires that I wish…of “everyone to get along, peace and people taking care of the earth.” We discussed it for a bit and I was touched to know my son ‘gets it.’


Yesterday, I expanded the conversation to have him ask me about my high school days. I wanted to have an open conversation so we could build a basis of trust as he enters some difficult and challenging years. We had an open dialog about the different drugs and what I thought they did to people per my observation. We talked about alcohol and even touched on the birds and the bees. It felt good to know he was comfortable asking the ‘tough questions’ without my judgment and just a healthy conversation.


Well, today took another turn of a deep conversation as I broached the topic of terrorism, violence and the many issues confronting us today, here in the U.S. and abroad. I started out by asking what he thought about everything going on in the world and then I asked him if he was in fear because of it all. I was beyond happy when he replied “no, that he isn’t afraid.” That meant so much to me because I believe that we cannot live in fear, DESPITE the chaos and unexpected violence that is everywhere and appears to be so random. I believe wholeheartedly that we have to TRUST. We have to remain vigilant in enjoying our lives. We cannot give up our peace to those that are creating violence, chaos and terror. If we do, then they truly win. We have to remain in our PEACE even in the most, dire situations.


After this in-depth conversation, I then asked him if he was afraid to die and he said “no.” I asked why and he replied, “that it is just another facet of life, as we all die.” Again, I cannot express how much this answer warmed my heart because it is my truth. I truly believe that when we leave our physical beingness, that we transition to complete spiritual beingness and that is nothing to fear. Don’t get me wrong as I believe in heaven and hell, I just believe that they exist here on this physical plane and that in every moment of everyday, we get to choose to live or be in heaven or hell.


I believe that our future lies in our children and their beliefs and desires of the world they want to live in, therefore, it is vital that we open up the conversations and dialogs of what they think, what they believe and what they want in this life and world.


The more we can engage our children, the more impact we have of shifting this current situation of mass violence and destruction, to a more peaceful state of being. I BELIEVE that our children DESIRE PEACE and LOVE. Let’s foster that and nurture that in lieu of feeding into fear, anger, separation, violence, etc. Let us all move to our natural state of LOVE. Let’s be kind to one another. Let’s love our earth and take care of her. Let us show gratitude and live in peace. Let us find joy in our moments. Let us take care of one another. Let us get carried away by fun, generosity and humor. Let us make the shift. Let us do it NOW.

Still Small Voice

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Hi, my name is Bonnie and I am a recovering sugar addict.

We all have our vices and I’ve had mine which included a soda addiction of which I broke back in 2009 because I had what I would deem as a prophetic dream showing me that if I didn’t quit drinking soda then I was going to get cervical cancer. I listened to the call because deep down I knew that I had to…so after decades of being addicted to soda, I knew it was going to take a dramatic effort to quit it, so I fasted. I went on cleanse and didn’t eat for six days. I gave my body time to detox and get rid of the chemicals that were taking up residence in my body. I went though withdrawals, fever, nausea, headaches, etc. but thankfully, I listened, because many months later after having an array of health issues, my doctor found a tumor in my cervix. It was the size of a grapefruit. The whole time, I thought I was just putting on weight but I was growing this tumor which was making me look pregnant. 

The doctor wanted to take a biopsy of which I agreed to out of precautionary measures but on a spiritual level I knew it was benign because I listened to the still small voice within. Fortunately, the results came back as I predicted….benign. Even though it wasn’t cancerous, I still had to have a hysterectomy due to the size of the tumor and the problems it was causing but was I ever so grateful to have listened.

How many of us ignore that voice? We know what to do but we do everything but what we KNOW we are meant to do for the betterment of ourselves…to include our state of health, mind and being.

Why do we often choose to ignore the intuitive voice? What would your life look like if you started listening? What is the worst that would happen if you took the necessary action to take the reigns and move toward answering the call from within?

Today, take a good, hard look at yourself…inside and out. Then, do one thing that you KNOW to do, that will help you.

Let me know how I can support you. Sometimes, we just need support or encouragement. Allow me to be your champion.

Be blessed!

What is Love?

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10568931_10204832210153687_2700365281649540494_nLove is a natural state of being. It is our baseline, our home. We are love. It isn’t what we do, although we do love, but it is more of just who we are, the essence of us.

When we are internally driven, love just exists, the problem is the majority of us are externally driven therefore we constantly seek love outside of us. We often look for others to give us love, show us love and to fulfill our need for love. We seek love from our partners, our children, friends and even our pets. Unfortunately, external cravings and expectations of love are just a recipe for disaster because when the love isn’t reciprocated or if it leaves due to a break-up, death or a falling out, all that remains is pain and heartache. We basically have given our power to another and suffering ends up being the result at every turn.

Say there is a romantic partnership and you love your partner with all of you as he/she is filling a void or hole within you. What happens when your partner misses the mark of what you ‘deem’ to be a loving action or verbal sentiment? I would suggest you are left with the pain and heartache as described above. This is an example of being externally driven as it is only sets both you and your partner up for failure. No one can ever love you the way you truly ‘need’ to be loved as only you can fill that void, since only you know what it looks like.

This can also be extended to a parent/child relationship. If we self-sacrifice and give to our children with an expectation that they have to respond a certain way to what we are giving, we then again, are setting everyone up for failure because each of us responds differently and disappointment is virtually guaranteed. Also, add that we are projecting onto our child(ren) and perpetuating the cycle of being externally driven as we are demonstrating and teaching them to do the same.

Basically, when negative emotions creep in, we move from our natural state of love. We no longer feel good, as we now are being driven by a new set of emotions be it, fear, anger, anxiety, etc. We are allowing the negative thoughts to intrude and replace what is essentially who we are—Love.

Now, imagine if you looked into the mirror and loved you. I mean really loved you, every inch of you. No criticisms, just pure love and acceptance. This would be the epitome of an internally driven love of which no one can ever disappoint or let you down, as you feel it from within. The beauty is from this whole space, you can now extend it outward to others without having an attachment to any expectation. You can now just share it and give it away freely without the need to receive anything in return, a kind of “pay it forward” premise. This is an example of unconditional love of which you extend to yourself, first and foremost, from the deepest recess of your wounds, healing the core of you. We have to reprogram and learn to give ourselves all of which we have sought from others. Fill yourself up with anything you missed from your childhood. Be to yourself what you have been seeking from others to give to you and then you share that love outward with complete joy and peace.

There is an easy assessment as to whether you are coming from an authentic loving space, just inquire if your action or thought makes you feel good or not, regardless of anyone responding to you? Or ask yourself if you are giving for the sole purpose of giving or if you are giving with an underlying need to get something in return?

Below are a few questions of reflection to ask yourself to aid in shifting your perspective.

  • What would my life look like by extending unconditional love to myself?
  • How can I remain internally driven when outside forces aren’t supporting me?
  • What would my life look like if I released attachment and expectations of love from others?
  • From this new loving space, who would I extend love to that I have been withholding it from?